Male Tales 1.088

Issue 1.088: I got it and you don’t...

All of us in sometime of our lifetime done it before and still do it.

And most times, intentionally with or without malice, but we did it to show our extra edge.

 So what is it that makes us do it.

No, my dear. Its not the picking of the nose or scratching the hairline of the dead follicle or the itch on the lower backend.

We are talking about being boastful or called I got it and you don’t... or the dictionaries like to add words to that behaviour; its defined as ‘To glorify oneself in speech; talk in a self-admiring way’ as described by ‘The Free Dictionary’ on the web.

But I kinda like the other definition by the psychiatrist. Its described as Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity.^[2] Narcissistic personality disorder is closely linked to self-centeredness.  They list the following factors identified by various researchers as possibilities.

·         An oversensitive temperament at birth is the main symptomatic chronic form

·         Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or abilities by adults

·         Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback

·         Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for poor behaviors in childhood

·         Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents

·         Severe emotional abuse in childhood

·         Unpredictable or unreliable caregiving from parents

·         Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem

Or to quip in a nicer manner, perhaps a touch of quotes from famous personalities like Bernard Berenson; ‘Boast is always a cry of despair, except in the young it is a cry of hope’.

Or from Louis L’amour ‘Too often I would hear men boast of the miles covered that day, rarely of what they had seen’.

( Psst, who is Bernard Berenson and Louis L’amour? Bernard Berenson (June 26, 1865 – October 6, 1959) was an American art historian specializing in the Renaissance, while Louis is a famous western novel writer. )

Or shall we induce in some Shakespeare’s words like this one; A friend should bear his friend's infirmities.
(Julius Caesar 4.3.85), Cassius to Brutus. ( Infirmities means A failing or defect in a person's character. ) I loved these words beautifully grafted in the dictionaries.

Oh, please allow me to induce myself further. Or shall I be humble to quote a verse from the Mathew 6:8 ESV from the Bible. "Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him."

( this is dedicated to one who needs to be shown the humble ways as I was. )